Welcome to a lonely life blog
Here at A Lonely Life, we believe in sharing, connecting, and finding comfort together. Our blog is a friendly, wise, and sometimes funny space where we explore stories about facing loneliness. We're here to help you feel less alone, one post at a time.
Why is it so much easier to be alone. We are social creatures who apparently need to be around others. We are supposed to want and need human connections. I get very lonely sometimes but being around people drains me. I dread it. I do it. Smile, chat, join someone for coffee then someone else for lunch and we exchange banalities most of which they will forget and ask me again the next time we see each other as if it was never discussed while I will remember every detail they shared with me. Then when the day is over and I get to go home, I am so relieved for the peace and quiet of my home and while I wish I had someone to hold sometimes, I find the loneliness so much easier to deal with.
I feel that people always end up disappointing you so why wait until they do. Why give them a chance to let you down, reject you or hurt your feelings. It's easier not to let them. Did you know that if you ask people questions, quietly listen to their answer, then keep following up with more questions, the vast majority of people will just keep talking about themselves and not pause to ask you a question. Every now and then, you will meet someone who will ask you a question or break the flow and that's how you know they could be someone worth talking to.
But if you feel that way and want it to change, try something different. Try putting the spotlight on you even if it's just commenting on how good your coffee tastes today. Try to open up. It's so much easier to stay closed but coming out of your comfort zone is a worthwhile experiment.
Finding your connection
You know how they say "no one is coming to save you". I have a really hard time accepting that because while I understand that happiness is within, how can I accept the idea that so many people feel as lonely as I do, yet we can't seem to find each other.
Stories that resonate
Isn't it strange how we all go to public places in complete isolation. We look at our phones, we put headphones on and make no attempt to talk to each other. I tend to get out of my way to avoid any human contact. Do you ever look at the people around you when you're using public transport or getting a coffee? What do you do when they look back. I have been trying to smile at people when they look back at me and I find it to be quite a successful method so far. Why not try next time you're out. Just smile. It's not much and most people tend to smile back.
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